Self-Esteem

The Nitty on Being Gritty: What It Really Takes To Reach Your Goals

The Nitty on Being Gritty: What It Really Takes To Reach Your Goals

Grit is a term made popular by Angela Duckworth from the University of Pennsylvania. She has launched a conversation about the relationship between grit, the tendency to maintain interest and effort in long-term goals, and self-control — what it takes to stay focused in the presence of temptations or diversions. Her exceptional research has earned her the MacArthur Fellowship in ...

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How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

We quit things we love because we believe ourselves unworthy. Have you given up things you love? Not things you loved, past tense, then honestly stopped loving — such as keg parties or Angry Birds. I mean things — places, topics, whatever — you still love, but let go. Maybe you told yourself you didn’t love them anymore so move ...

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What Does Your Apology Say About You?

What Does Your Apology Say About You?

“A meaningful apology is one that communicates three R’s: regret, responsibility and remedy.” – Beverly Engel When you say that you’re sorry to another person whom you’ve wronged, or who believes you’ve wronged them, what does your apology say about you? Is that even important? Doesn’t the fact that you deliver the apology in the first place hold greater weight? After ...

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How Volunteering Can Help Your Mental & Physical Health

7 Ways to Stop Time

Many recent studies that have been done on volunteer work show how it’s connected to better health. Physical effects on the body, such as lowered blood pressure can be measured and impacted through helping others. Though some of us are introverts, humans need social connection in order to survive and thrive. Helping others not only makes you feel good about ...

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How to Be Kind to Yourself

How to Be Kind to Yourself

We tend to think that we have to earn self-kindness. That is, in order to be kind to ourselves, we must meet certain conditions. We must not make mistakes. We must work out five times a week. No exceptions. We must keep a tidy, organized home. We must make “healthy” meals. We must check off everything on our to-do list. ...

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What So Many of Us Get Wrong About Assertiveness

What So Many of Us Get Wrong About Assertiveness

Most of us are familiar with the term “assertive.” We have a general idea of what being assertive means. But that doesn’t mean we fully understand it. And, in our society, many myths still abound, which adds another layer of confusion. Which is a problem, because these misconceptions can lead us to stay silent about our needs, stew in our ...

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How to Be Mindful (Even if You’re Anxious or Impatient)

How to Be Mindful (Even if You’re Anxious or Impatient)

The world really wants us to count our blessings. News articles and blog posts tout the many benefits of gratitude, from improved health to better sleep and happier moods. Entrepreneurs and business behemoths like Oprah Winfrey swear by gratitude journals as a solution to stress and the secret to their success. But practicing gratitude doesn’t come naturally to everyone — myself included. For one ...

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Why Being of Service Improves Happiness

Why Being of Service Improves Happiness

As a physician of internal medicine, I’m always trying to provide my patients with the best advice to help them live their best lives. I often find myself suggesting patients take steps to manage their stress. One of the most surprisingly effective ways to enhance happiness and decrease stress is through volunteer work — that’s why I promote the idea ...

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Do You Practice Savior Behavior?

Do You Practice Savior Behavior?

A few years ago, I had a delusion that I was Wonder Woman incarnate and penned these words: “I am thrilled to say that my invisible Wonder Woman cape and tights are in the Jeep (along with my faerie wings, which are tangible and colorful) and I don them less often these days. Once upon a time, they were standard wear for this ...

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